‘Calm down, Annabel!’ Those three words have followed me through life like a bad smell, always there, ready, on the tips of tongues: ‘can’t you just chill out, Annabel, you never seem to relax!’
Yes, I’m the hyper girl! I’m the one who goes against the typical “girls are more inattentive so get missed more” Instagram title! Living both in a tornado of unregulated creativity and a sphere of organised entrepreneurial structure, I break the mould with a glittery rainbow hammer.
I’m less inattentive than I am hyperactive and impulsive.
In a different world, in a less favourable job, my inattention would shine through like light pollution on a hillside, but right here, right now, in this time and place, I am the hyper girl! There’s no change though: I have always been the loud, excitable one. In school, I was not the forgetful daydreamer, but I did have problems controlling my speed and impulsiveness to begin tasks. Like an enthusiastic bouncing ball, I charged through every activity I was presented with and was subsequently known as ‘a tornado’ – the name stuck!
Inattention wise, I didn’t zone out or daydream as I needed to constantly be involved in everything, right at the forefront of anything new or exciting. I wasn’t the kind of child who sat at the back of the classroom fidgeting, I wanted to be there, in the middle of the action, going first – I always wanted to be first! Unfortunately, when I wasn’t involved, my inattention started to show and I struggled to listen to instructions and follow multiple-step orders. I was possibly the most impulsive child in the classroom, but I was missed because I was like a sponge when it came to learning new information.
As I grew older, I didn’t become any less ‘hyper’, but it definitely became more internalised as my passion for Bedford Tutor grew and an entrepreneurial elixir filled my veins with the magic of ‘you’ve created this and now you can make money from it and help people!’ I set up my businesses in the same chaotic storm of energy I used to complete schoolwork and I don’t remember succeeding at anything I took slowly. My brain has never been fired up by ‘going at a calm pace’ and, unless I can get things done quickly, I do tend to lose interest rapidly.
I’m the girl who goes against the grain and doesn’t fit the majority.
Even as an ADHDer, I am different, but I’m not bothered by the fact I walk my own walk and talk (okay, shout) my own talk. I was lucky enough to be brought up in a family where hyperactivity wasn’t frowned upon and I lived a free-range childhood in a place where you could run as far as the sunset and still be home for dinner. My impulsiveness has been the most problematic part of my ADHD (apart from the RSD, of course), but I’ve always been happy being ‘the hyper girl’. Luckily, through running my dream businesses, I have learnt ways to control the inattentive parts of my personality as I know, through experience, that these become difficult to manage if I am not in a job which provides me with constant mental stimulation. I’m as Combined as they come, but I have learnt to live well with my ADHD (managing my inattention by doing a job I adore) and I LOVE my hyper to the core.
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